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And now to wrap up “bomb dropping Wednesday”

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Yep, for reals.

You read that correctly.

I’m 15 weeks along.  I know what you’re thinking.  Yes, my boobs look amazing.  Thank you for noticing.

Many of you remember my post about the infertility we were facing, and the kindness, encouragement, and prayers you all showed/gave were amazing.

This post is going to be long, happy, exhausting, and emotional, so grab something delicious to drink, tuck your feet up on the couch and let’s get down to the brass tacks.

But before you know anything else, please know this.

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And this.

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As you read in my previous post, we had had zero luck trying for another kid.  In early March, we had an appointment with the wonderful folks at Seattle Reproductive Medicine.  Let me say, these people know how to deal with emotional folks.  The lovely receptionist gave us hugs before checking us in, and then level of kindness and respect we were shown for the entire appointment was overwhelming.  They went over some test results of some let’s say…sampling Troy had done earlier, and basically we were told we were in the category of “unexplained fertility”.  They couldn’t say why two healthy people in their 30’s (one with shall I say aggressive swimmers.  Sorry Troy.  Don’t worry, the six guys who read my blog are high fiving you right now) couldn’t have a freaking baby.

And I’d like to point out that never once during that appointment with FERTILITY doctor, we were told it would happen if we relaxed.  Sorry, have to get it out there.  Still feel bitter on behalf of anyone else with fertility issues for getting that “advice” from people.

I had a HSG scheduled for the following week at a hospital closer to home than the fertility clinic, and our doctor said she would review the report as soon as the radiologist sent it.

For anyone who doesn’t want to read the link about the HSG, basically a doctor shoves a tube up your cervix, inflates a little balloon and shoots some dye in to your lady parts.  That dye is then tracked via xray to see if there is any blockage in your tubes preventing the eggs from reaching where it is supposed to.  Essentially, I took to calling it “the Roto Cooter”.

Hey, six guys who read my blog, where you going…?

The next week, my vagina and I reported for the procedure, and I was fired up!  I had been told it was a pretty fast procedure, so imagine my surprise when after 15 minutes, the doctor told me my cervix wasn’t “cooperating” and could we try this (fill in the blank of what I did over the next 15 minutes: propped myself up on pillows, put one leg in the air, and pretty much stood on my head at one point).  I was sweating why he finally announced that I was in the very small population of women with too much scar tissue on their cervix to perform the HSG without knocking me out to just plow through it without making me pass out.

I remember being so close to tears saying “I had a med free birth and can deal.  Can you please just jam it in there”?

Hippocratic oath smitocratic oath.  He turned me down.

I said thanks so much, got dressed, and my vagina and I high tailed it to the car, making it with 10 microseconds to spare before the ugly sobbing and shoulder wracking crying started.  Well by not being able to do the procedure, I guess we had our answer…my shit was too blocked up for the egg and sperm to meet up and do their thing.

I emailed my reproductive doctor (I couldn’t trust actually talking to anyone on the phone at that point) asking her to knock me out and shove a tube in me.  She was booked for the window where you can do a HSG in a woman’s cycle, but said to call her during the start of my next cycle.  For anyone who has already waited awhile to have a baby, being told this cycle is essentially useless is a hard thing to hear.

At the start of the next cycle, I gave her a call and she said “let me try it just once before we have to go to the extent of knocking you out”.  My britney and came to the office on day seven of my cycle, hoisted ourselves up in to the stirrups, and were prepared to be disappointed (devastated) again.  Imagine our (my britney and my own) surprise when the reproductive doctor had that tube up there in about 17 seconds.  Say whaaaaaaaa?  She basically said (and I am paraphrasing) that when vaginas are your daily beat, you know a thing or two about a thing or two.  I even took a photo of what my uterus and tubes looked like up on the screen with dye and contrast in them, and well even though I share a lot around here, I don’t think we’re all ready to be that intimate.

I was able to watch the dye pulsing through my tubes and everything looked clear and connected and where it should be.  The doctor said that typically the first few cycles after a HSG, there is a slight increase in fertility because everything is all squeaky clean and free of flotsam and jetsam.  I said “ok, sure, we’ll see you next cycle for the IUI“.  And then I went about my merry way.

Hold that, I got a milkshake.  Pineapple.  Troy thinks that is weird, but I love it.  And then I went back to work.

We saved up money for the IUI that next cycle, but still kept um, giving it the old college try.  I never relaxed, or gave up, or anything like that.  I still took my damn temp every fucking morning, and still peed on ovulation sticks every fucking afternoon.  It was business as usual.  I even continued to shave my legs to try to “woo” my poor overly worked husband.  Pity him friends.

My chart that cycle was different than others, but I had different ones before and had read too much in to them in the past.  Any chart stalker will tell you that it is a complete and utter mind fuck to try to figure out what that little temp is trying to tell you.  Any twinges, feelings, or “symptoms” I had were pushed aside, because “been there, done that.  Have the t-shirt of utter disappointment”.

There were a few little signs on a Monday and a Tuesday midway through my cycle, but again they were ignored.  After cycles of testing before my period was due and seeing that one damn line, I resolved to never test again until my period was overdue.

And then, the teachers of my school district RUINED MY DAY.

Our local district had a one day walkout, and were picketing on my way to work.  As I passed some and gave them a supportive honk, honest to god I semi-burst in to tears.  TEARS.  I was so proud of my family because of all the educators we have, and I was just overwhelmed for these teachers.

Yeah…

I texted Troy that day saying I was going to the grocery store that night to get him some more lunch meat for the week.  I walked in to the store, got a test (and some lunch meat) and talked to myself throughout the whole store saying “ok, it’s Wednesday, you can test on Friday if your period still isn’t here”.  Somehow between the produce section and the checkout aisle, I made the decision to NOT WASTE THAT TEST.  Take it home, and pee on it in two days.

Imagine my surprise when five minutes later, I found myself in a bathroom stall at the grocery store at 5:30 pm at night, hands shaking so badly that I peed everywhere but on the stick.  I had to do it again because, you know, aim.

I finished my business, closed my eyes and said a prayer I had prayed a hundred times.  The test said to wait for results in two minutes.  About 30 seconds in to it, I opened my eyes and there were two VERY dark lines.

Oh.My.Hell.

I went home shaking, crying, and alternatively screaming to tell Troy.

Only to find my mom upstairs after eating dinner, and not budging.  She would NOT go downstairs for what seemed like 400 hours.  I wanted to tell Troy without an audience.

She finally left (we all think this is funny now), and when Jack was distracted, I called Troy in to the kitchen.  And then Jack came running up behind him and totally hammed it up for the entire “reveal”.  Thankfully Jack didn’t get it.

 

That was a Wednesday.  That Sunday, we were sitting in church and someone talked about a fundraiser for homeless kids in our community to go to summer camp.  And then our community resources  coordinator talked about a single mom working multiple jobs who was about the be evicted.  I wrote two checks using our IUI money, and thanked the good lord for our amazing gift.

We told our family a few weeks later during Troy’s birthday dinner.  Jack and I had worked on a book for Troy, and Jack had worked really hard to illustrate and color it.  At the end we put an “About the Author” in there that basically just said “Jack is six years old, lives in Washington, loves Nerf guns and Minecraft, and wants to be a cowboy fireman like his dad when he grows up”.  I printed off the book and left the original “About the Author” in there, but made a separate one that ended with “and will become a big brother in January 2016”.  Jack read the whole book to the family, and then got to the About the Author, and then there was a fifteen second delay and all hell broke loose.  We have it on video, but Jack’s voice is too low to really hear it, and the last 20 seconds of the video is just my sister-in-law bum rushing me and screaming.  Jack is extremely excited, and is very doting and kind to me.  He declared an end to shooting me with Nerf darts so that he doesn’t hurt the baby.

So, we’re thrilled, blessed, and excited.  I’m due January 27th, which ironically is the day the giant almost two year project at work is due.  Way to go me!  Oh, and it’s another boy.  A lot has changed in the SEVEN years since I have been pregnant.  Apparently there is now a blood test you can do around 12 weeks to test for genetic disorders (it would never change our mind about the pregnancy, but we would like to know and be prepared with appropriate resources), and can also extract the baby’s DNA to predict gender.  You could have knocked my butt over with a feather when I found THAT out!  No more waiting until 20 weeks like a sucker, or even longer like those bizarre freaks I can’t understand who wait until the baby is born to find out.  A type A organizer who took medical intervention to get pregnant?  Let’s just say the shock of even finding out I am pregnant is enough of a “surprise” for me!

Anyone who knew me when I was pregnant with Jack, pretty much said the same first two things when they found out.  “Congrats”!!! and “Ohhhh…how are you”? Because let’s just say I was sick as a freaking dog with Jack.  Like puking 5-15 times a day sick.  As in, losing 12 pounds in two weeks sick.  As in, when I told someone at my last company that I was pregnant, he said “oh thank god, I thought you had cancer”.  That kind of sick.  And it didn’t stop until almost the third trimester.

This one is still challenging at times, but is nothing like Jack.  Which of course led us to think we were having a girl.  In all honesty, my nutrition and my knowledge about what my body needs is so different from when I was pregnant with my crazy toe headed ninja.  With Jack, it was “carbs, carbs, carbs” all the time, because that is what everything you ever read about sickness tells you to consume.  NOW, knowing what I know, I realized I was totally spiking my blood sugar like a crazy person.  No wonder I was so sick!  Even when I was so super sick with Jack, my body kept craving protein (specifically deviled eggs from Clementines deli in Los Angeles on Santa Monica Blvd), but I couldn’t keep anything down and thus, the protein escaped my lips.

This pregnancy, I vowed that no matter how sick I was, I would consume some sort of protein.  And I have pretty much stuck to that plan.  The second I feel sick, I have some yogurt, a hard boiled egg, or a slice of cheese and I always feel just a bit better.  It’s amazing what proper nutrition can do to improve an overall “blech” feeling.  I’ve still lost weight, but only about six pounds; a welcome relief.  As I like to say, my worst day in this pregnancy, was the best day in my pregnancy with Jack.  This pregnancy, I hiked 5 miles at 8,000 foot elevation in Colorado, and got to keep down amazing and delicious food.  I ate a cricket protein bar.  I have not been on the couch in the fetal position the entire time.

The first bite of most meals is always touch and go whether or not the food will stay put.  The second morning in Denver, my friend Anne made paleo pancakes.  She watched me take the first bite, dry heave, and remarked “so, I guess you don’t like my pancakes…”?  I loved them Anne.  They were delicious.

I’m also incredibly tired.  Like, when Jack slept 90 minutes at a time, and I commuted 2.5 hours a day tired.  I wasn’t tired with Jack (or maybe I was too sick to notice?), but I’m exhausted this time.  It might be because I wake up every hour at night (the oddest thing is if I sleep on one side for more than an hour, my ear is on fire) or um, I don’t know, I’m seven years older than last time!  With Jack, I only had myself and Troy on occasion to take care of in a tiny apartment.  Now, I have a garden, more people in the house, a bigger house to clean, etc.  The funny thing is, with Jack, I worked much harder at work and way more hours.

I’m still able to work out, and I think that has been huge in terms of how I feel overall.  Staying active and positive as much as I can helps.

And now for the Debbie Downer moment.  As excited and happy as I am, I feel so freaking guilty.  All the time.  I feel guilty that we got out of this relatively easy.  Why did we get to have our miracle with relatively little expensive and invasive treatments, when amazing people who deserve a child just as much as we do, don’t have that level of success?  I can’t explain it, I certainly don’t understand it, but I always feel like we won the lottery at the expense of others.  It might be irrational, but it is how I feel and I can’t control it.  Infertility is a motherfucker, and is so unfair to all parties involved.

I’ll be honest in that I don’t quite know how to talk about baby stuff on here, while knowing that for some people it’s a sensitive, painful topic. Ignoring it won’t work, because I blog about my life, and this is a fairly big part of my life.  Please understand that if you feel like you just can’t read my blog anymore, I totally understand.

So that’s that.  The good, the exciting, the guilt, the emotion.  It’s a mixed bag, but something I will never forget in my whole life.  Here is what I do know:

  • We’re incredibly blessed
  • We don’t take it for granted
  • I hope this calmer pregnancy means a calmer child, because no one (especially me) can handle a second Jack.  The world ain’t ready for that folks.
  • I had always anticipated having a daughter in my life.  We’re done after two kids, so it isn’t happening.  Once I got over the shock (happy shock) of finding out this one was a boy, I thought “what an honor to be able to teach another man to treat his wife (or husband, hell, I don’t care I just want a happy child) with dignity and respect”.  I get one more chance to send a male out in to the world who can cook, be handy, be funny, be smart, be genuine, and respect people.  And god help me, at least one of these boys will learn to deal with a freaking common cold without acting like they are dying.
  • I hope this kid likes me.  From the second they put Jack on my chest (and he did a push up and looked around), homeboy has ONLY had eyes for Troy.  Had it not been for my boobs in that first year, he would have wanted nothing from me.  That whole “Momma’s boy” stuff is a load of crap.

I’m guessing for a few of you, the whole quitting my job is making a lot more sense now, huh?  Now that Troy had a really good full-time solid job with benefits, we ran the numbers.  After paying for two kids in daycare, I’d essentially be working for minimum wage.  Troy can pick up an extra shift a month and make up for what I would be bringing home.

I also work late.  A lot.  And my commute is over 90 minutes a day.  I already get up at 4:30 am to get ready, get Jack ready, get him to daycare, and get to work on time.  Adding a separate day care drop off to that mix would be insanity.  As of now, if Jack gets sick, we’re left scrambling at 5 am to find alternate care, reschedule my clients, or beg someone just anyone to watch this kid because Troy has to work and I have a presentation to give to 90 people at 8:30 am.  Now, when I work late, it’s an act of God to get late coverage for Jack.  If I suddenly tried to thrust an infant in to that mix, it just wouldn’t happen.

And so, we have big changes ’round these parts.  Big changes for our family, but all exciting and slightly terrifying.  I look forward to sharing our joy, laughter, heart-stopping fears, and silliness with you.  Thanks for being a part of our journey and our family.

*special thanks again to my friend Kat for always being willing to help me out with Photoshopping stuff!

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107 comments on “And now to wrap up “bomb dropping Wednesday””

  1. Yep. Infertility sucks. Try not to let the Debbie downer stuff get to you. Speaking as a woman who wasn’t able to get pregnant, I can honestly say that I’m happy for you. There isn’t some magic amount of “good” that is limited and can only be spread so thin. There’s no need to apologize or feel bad for being able to get pregnant. Still plan on reading and looking forward to the stories! So happy for you and your family.

    • OMG! Seeing a post from you always makes my day but this one is over the top! I cried a little reading about your donation. No one deserves infertility but I’m thankful you will have another little boy to make fart jokes. You’re amazing,,,,jumping up and down with joy in Chicago!!!!!!!

    • You have a wonderful outlook on life, and we could all learn a thing or two about grace from you!

  2. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! So very happy for you. LOVE,LOVE,LOVE reading your blog and you sharing your news with us.

  3. I had a sneaky suspicion thats why Jan 2016 was freedom! Congrats lady! So happy for you guys.

  4. Sarah, So happy for you and your family, keep up the good work, the good blog and it’s a joy to read about your adventures in parenting, etc. I myself had twins and didn’t even want to be pregnant but so happy I had them and even though they were preemies, they are super healthy, talented and going on 35 years old in a couple of months and this Momma is super proud….. Aloha, stephanie

  5. So freakin’ happy for you!! And I love the RotoCooter bit–got to tell my daughter that one. That is exactly what they did to her, and told her there could even be a blockage that they couldn’t see that would clear out after doing that. I think she got pregnant just about as fast as you did, too. Wish I’d known about protein and sugars when pregnant with my boys, mornings were hell and had heart burn in the last trimester with both. Among the weird things that preggers women eat, Miracle Whip on crackers was the only thing that helped with nausea. (Gotta say, I still love that one, always have.) And I can’t tell you how hard it is to stand the smell of coffee thirty-five years after the birth of my oldest. Someone burned some coffee during a baby shower and the smell still bothers me!

  6. What a week! When I read your “I quit my job” post it started to sound like an “I’m quitting my blog” post and got SO SAD because this is my, like, #1 go to blog I have to read weekly. Congratulations! This is so exciting!

  7. Congratulations!!!

    Being able to stay home with your child is incredible and with multiple children, it does make more financial sense a lot of the time.

  8. Congratulations!! We also went to Seattle Reproductive Medicine and were classified as unexplained! After try #3 with IUI we decided to pool our resources and adopt. Our son is 1 1/2 and we are about to start the search for a sibling. I am so excited for you! Lucky boys to have the two of you for parents!

  9. Congrats!!! That is awesome news and great that you can stay home, you will love it!

  10. Omg!!! This is the best news ever. Congratulations!!!

  11. So so happy for your family. I am looking forward to the new baby in January.

  12. Congrats! I have a pretty similar story. I have been trying to get pregnant for over 3 years. 2 years naturally, 1 year on fertility meds. Got a HSG done and all the other testing. we were a couple in our mid 30’s with nothing wrong , we just couldn’t get pregnant. About 4 months later the doc cut us off on meds and suggested an IUI and soon, before I get much older. I am now 8 weeks pregnant, and I have never cried as much as I did when I saw that 2nd line. Congrats again!

  13. Congratulations!! I was hoping this was why you decided to quit your job! As someone in the process of adopting children from foster care, your morning sickness horror stories take some of the headaches away from all of the paperwork and hoops we are going through right now. I will be continuing to follow your journey because even though pregnancy wasn’t the right way for my husband and I to start a family, it is the right way for you to expand your own family. Also, I’m slightly addicted to your sense of humor and can’t live without your blog.

    • What an amazing kind of person you are to adopt! Good luck to you in this process. We have a couple from our church going through it, and it’s been a long time coming.

  14. I am so happy for you! You will all continue to be in my prayers!

  15. I am so happy for you! Congratulations.

  16. Congratulations! Wishing you and your family all the happiness.

  17. Congratulations!!! That is such exciting news!

  18. Congratulations to you and your family!! I admire you for taking that crazy scary leap to quit your job and think it’s amazing that you will be able to and add a new baby to your family. I always enjoying reading your posts and look forward to many more.

  19. Thanks for sharing your happy news, congratulations!

  20. GAHHHHHHHHH I’m so excited! I am so happy for your family 🙂 I’m also thrilled that you will be blogging the whole way there so we can experience it along with you, well without the morning sickness and whole torn vag part…
    Seriously, I check this blog on a daily basis and you have become part of my daily routine, your readers love you and feel like they are part of the family. Thanks for sharing so much with us

  21. So happy for you!

  22. Your posts always make my day but this took it over the top. I cried a little when you mentioned your donation. You’re a beautiful family and I can’t wait to hear of another baby making fart jokes! Jumping up and down with joy in Chicago!!!!!!

  23. I am so happy for you. Congratulations!

  24. I am way, way too excited for you!! I have been been enjoying your blog for a few years now. Commented here and there (if not, I totally meant to! Busy, you understand.) so we’re not total strangers (I won’t feel creepy for being so excited about this) 😉 and have embraced a lot of the frugal, sustainable living you promote as well as loving the sharing of your crazy, beautiful family life! Congratulations, congratulations, congratulations!! So excited for you and your family! I’ll be keeping you all in my prayers!

  25. CONGRATULATIONS! Hurray for such good news for you & your family.

  26. Whoooohooooo! I also was able to get pregnant after having my “tubes detailed”, as I call it. I think I posted on your original post about it. I am so glad it worked for you too! My Dr told me in her experience about 40-50% of secondary infertility is fixed with an HSG. Congratulations! I was practically narcoleptic with both my pregnancies. Good luck!

  27. Holy cats…go big or go home! So very happy for you, your hubby & the big brother. Wow!

    • PS. Roto Cooter…funny s**t right there!!
      PPS. I also had hyper emesis (acute vomiting) with all 3 pregnancies. I found that protein was much easier to keep down than the carbs and I felt better after eating it. My only issue was the smell when cooking it…..

      • Ugh, you poor thing; all 3?

        I love hard boiled eggs, but can’t stand the smell of them cooking. My dad makes a dozen at least once a week and we have to make sure all the doors to the upstairs are closed tightly.

  28. Squeeeeeeeee!!! That’s the best news I’ve read in ages!! I’m one of the clueless ones who had no suspicions at all when you dropped bomb #1. 🙂 Congratulations, and prayers for a healthy, less pukey pregnancy!

    How long do you think the nerf treaty will really last?? I can’t imagine little brother providing amnesty to you for the whole 25 remaining weeks. 😉 Betting pool idea? It’s more fun than delivery date and weight.

    • I’ll wield that baby like a shield if it keeps me from being shot at! Jack is too concerned about his baby brother to shoot me when holding him. LOL

  29. I am SO thrilled for you! Since starting to read your blog a few years ago….I can honestly say that I have enjoyed every one. But this one is over the moon!
    Congratulations! It couldn’t happen to a nicer gal!

  30. Congratulations! The firs part of your writing I loved (apart from the good news) was the doctors’ idea that you might fall pregnant after the procedure. That happened to me – I had the “tubes blown” and it all happened. Then I loved the paragraph about having a second boy. I also have two boys and am done. I never thought I’d mother only boys, but there you are. On the upside I got 2 mommy’s boys (after Dad’s been away on a business trip for a few days they might notice his absence), and as you say, I intend to raise them to treat their future partners as I would wish to be treated. All the best!

  31. Yay!!! Just yay for you guys! So happy for u and I totally get the catholic girl – unnecessary guilt. You’re thankful, and don’t take your situation for granted. That’s enough. And when you do either of those things – you’re human.

    Yay again. Now get some rest 🙂

  32. I don’t know anything about infertility. I do know about being an unexpected and (partially) unwanted child. I also know about being single and unmarried into my 40’s (as of Saturday, I’m turning 40) because not enough men who can “cook, be handy, be funny, be smart, be genuine, and respect people” who are worth even TRYING to have children with, seem to exist these days. So based on what I DO know, I know how completely excited and thrilled I am for you to be having this new bundle of joy. And how excited and thrilled I am for him to have you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  33. I am crying. I’m just so happy for you. All I can say is I get it. Our mirical is 10mos now and getting into trouble with her older sister. I still can’t believe we were able to give her a sibling after so much heartache.

  34. Woo hoo!!! CONGRATULATIONS!! I am soooo happy for you 🙂 I am due with my first baby in March and every time I read stories of infertility I realize how fortunate we have been. I can’t wait to meet your little guy!

  35. Congratulations!! I had that weird ear thing during pregnancy too. So weird. I’ve never heard anyone else say that. I ended up sleeping on a fabric baby toy stacking ring. Glad you’re feeling better than last pregnancy. 🙂

    • Ok, so I’m not insane? Or maybe we’re insane together? I can’t figure it out and it’s driving me insane. You’re cracking me up thinking about sleeping on a stacking toy!

  36. YEAA!! Congratulations!

  37. Oh wow, congratulations! Thank you for sharing with us. My husband and I are also experiencing infertility, though the doc hasn’t quite moved us to meds yet. Your story gives me hope. And, I can’t wait to read your posts on pregnancy and the new baby!

    • We weren’t at the meds stage either, because I ovulated like a champ and had tons of eggs (they could tell via u/s). Meds would be like spitting in to the wind on that.

      Have they identified where your problems lie? I’ll send you happy thoughts and prayers that you too will find a miracle!

      • We’re in the process of figuring it out. Ovulation and ultrasound is great for me, so my husband is getting checked out and then we’ll go from there. Thanks for your good thoughts and prayers!

      • Sounds like our journey as well. On one hand, I hope your husband’s tests are great. On the other, not having an answer is soooooooooo frustrating! I felt both relieved and angry after we got troy’s test back and were basically told “there is no reason you aren’t pregnant by now”.

        Good luck, and maybe drop me a line when you get the results back!

        Oh, and if your husband is anything like Troy, he will act like “that” test is the worst thing ever…as if it isn’t something that is enjoyable to them! I was like “you go do something fun in to this cup, and I’ll just be over here having a tube shoved in to my cervix. You poor baby!”. Men.

      • Ha ha, my husband is a bit squeamish about is test, but he knows the tests I’ve had so he’s wisely not saying much about his discomfort! And thanks!

  38. Oh Sarah, I’m so happy for you & your family! I got a little teary reading it, with a smile on my face (sniffle) Congratulations!

  39. I am so excited for you. Your blog is my favorite thing to read. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

  40. Couldn’t be more happy for you! I too struggled with infertility, and could’ve sucker punched people when they told me to “relax.” It is all consuming and people just don’t understand. But, eventually, I was blessed with three sons and no daughters. What a gift they are and I’m so happy for you and Troy! Boys rule!!!

  41. Jeeeeeej Woohoo congrats.

    I’m liking..no loving the bomb dropping Wednesday posts :D.

  42. Congratulations! Don’t feel guilty!!!

  43. Congratulations, just shed tears of happiness for you. It is such wonderful news thanks for sharing x

  44. Congratulations! I read most of this with my legs crossed though.

  45. Goosebumps at the “supermarket toilet part”… and after that, tears. I am so freaking happy for the both of you!!
    Oh and Troy…. you had me at “baaaabe 🙂

  46. Yay!!!! Congratulations!! I am so fucking happy for you and oh you are correct, your boobs look great!!!! And please don’t worry about your happiness making someone sad, if they love you like your everyday readers do they will be happy for you!!! Ps I love how long it took Troy to put it together in the video!!

  47. THIS IS SO AWESOME!

  48. Congrats on the exciting news! So happy to hear that your fertility struggle is over! It gives me hope that things happen when they happen and maybe I will have similar good news to share down the road!

  49. Congrats to you and your family!!

  50. I did suspect that last week, or at least hope that it was true! Very exciting news, looking forward to hearing all about pregnancy, birth and baby related things.

  51. Sarah, I read every word of this blog ( and every one you post) with joy in my heart. I am so happy for you and Troy. I sit here and just rejoice that God has created such intelligent Doctors that help so many women fill there desires for children. I realize there are those that this never happens too, but still am rejoicing for the ones for which it does. Continue to let your faith abound and rejoice in the road ahead of you, the years pass so fast, before you turn around they are grown and gone from the nest.
    I look forward to many more post about your journey with your family and and your frugal lifestyle. Gods blessing for you and your family.

  52. Damn girl! Had me crying and all! So freakin happy for y’all.
    I don’t post much but have been following you for a while now. Happy for you that you can be a stay at home mom – I was able to do that until my daughter was 5 and my son 7, enjoy every bit of it!!!

    Melissa in SC

  53. Sarah,
    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! And I thought you were lucky to be allowed to have chicken in your yard 😉 I pray God gives you a much easier second pregnancy and that you can really enjoy your life with two kiddos (even if the second is as crazy active as Jack). From my experience the second is equally challenging, but only in areas you didn’t master with the first. And don’t spend a second feeling guilty about others challenges with infertility. Sharing your story and praying for them are the two kindest gifts you can give at this point. And no one who loves kids wants to hear that you are not fully enjoying your pregnancy on their behalf. Virtual hugs from Ohio

    • My sister is the oldest and was the perfect dream child. I was not. I was a challenge, so I’m scared of what THAT could look like! LOL

      Thank you for the virtual hugs and kind words!

  54. Congratulations !! I have followed your blog for quite a while and love to hear about your good news .

  55. What wonderful news! Congratulations! I’m so happy for you and your family.

  56. As an additional woman that can’t get pregnant – I’m so happy for you. I know this baby is so wanted and I’m just hoping for it’s health and happiness!!

    Congrats, and congrats on the huge decision about the job.

    And seriously? Good for you for saying you never relaxed. I am _so_tired_ of all the “helpful” advice!

  57. Congratulations!!! This is an AWESOME update! I have had friends who became pregnant with MULTIPLES after that procedure so you dodged that ball.. unless that is NEXT Wednesdays update!
    Many blessings to you and your family! I too worked FT after my first.. and then when that 10 week u/s showed TWO babies.. I started plotting the SAHM gig!

    You will love and hate it all at the same time!

    • That was definitely something we were trying to avoid. For the IUI route, our were going to decline the meds they suggest (Clomid) because it increases chances of multiples. What an amazing blessing they could be, but something we were not ready for. When our doc did an ultrasound on my ovaries when we first started, they were FULL of eggs. I didn’t want to risk that!!

      Wow, were you shocked off the table at your u/s!

  58. I am thrilled for you! I had that test done hum, about 26 years ago. Hurt like a mother. Doctor did jam it in. Glad they didn’t do that to you. Congrats!!

  59. Very very happy for your family I will still through a few prayers your way ❤️

  60. Just wanted to add my Congrats!

    I have a friend who experienced similar issues after her son. The difference was she had to have the “Turkey Baster”! (IUI). You are too funny! Looking forward to sharing your joy from here!

  61. Yay congrats! I have to admit I secretly wondered when your last post went up. So glad that’s the reason!

  62. So excited for you all!!!!What a true blessing. Love the no shooting Nerfs at you….Jack is one awesome big brother already!!

  63. Sooooo happy for you!

  64. Congratulations! Our God is AWESOME! So happy for you all!

  65. Yes!!!!!! I’m so glad for you and the family!!! I love how you said, “Infertility is a motherfucker” and indeed it is. After tons of meds and one round of a failed IUI we said the hell with this. As of May 20th, we’re on the wait list through our adoption agency. Fingers crossed our baby comes soon!! Big changes on the horizon for everybody…love it!

  66. Hey Sarah, first time commenter here!

    I’ve been reading your blog for ages, even though on the surface it seems like the topics you write about should not be very interesting to me – family, having kids, having chickens ( 😉 ), etc. – I’m only a few years younger than you are, but still studying and very much not wanting to start a family in the foreseeable future. However, your writing style is just so hilarious and your interest and passion for all those topics that are so unfamiliar to me is really quite catching…
    So when you wrote about your infertility, even though I’m on the exact opposite side right now and I cannot imagine what it’s like to wish to get pregnant so hard – I could still feel your pain, and I thought about you at times and wished you the best. So, very happy to hear that you’re going to be a mom for the second time soon! 🙂 (I even told my boyfriend, “you know that hilarious blogger I sometimes talk about? she was trying to get pregnant and now it finally worked, I’m so happy for her!” and I think he thinks I’m crazy 😉 )

    Sooo, as I said, very happy for you! Wishing you and your family the very best from Germany! (In case you were wondering about weird wording or anything, there’s the explanation 😉 And look, another reader from overseas! 😀 )

  67. So absolutely HAPPY for you guys! And oh god…the roto cooter…it’s a miracle I didn’t spew coffee all over my keyboard. you’re the best! 🙂 A million billion congrats 🙂

  68. YAAAAAAAAYYYYY! I got choked up at the pee-test part and was ugly crying by the IUI-check-for-needy-family part. SO glad for you guys! And in my totally unsciencey opinion, you’re probably having a girl… My first pregnancy, I was sick as a dog all the time and had a psycho boy-child. The second go-round, I had to keep my blood sugar stable and I kept the queasiness to a dull roar. Now we have an unbelievably chill chubby newborn girl. Although multiple boys are rad too (coming from a girl with all brothers.) Heartfelt congratulations from Kansas 🙂

    • It’s a boy. We had a blood test done at 12 weeks. I was shocked, because this pregnancy was so different that I too thought it was a girl.

      Thanks for all your kind words!

  69. Congrats. I am so very happy for you. I pray you have an uneventful pregnancy and delivery.

  70. This is wonderful news! Congratulations! I look forward to reading about all the happy changes that will be happening.

  71. So happy and excited for you and your family! YAy! and you get to be stay at home mum and do all sorts of stuff you otherwise have to cram into your day.(although baby permitting, you never know what type of a new person is arriving). Looking forward to reading about your new adventures!

  72. Congrats! That’s amazing. I usually pee in a cup so that I don’t miss the stick.

  73. What fabulous news! I am so, so happy for you.

    Having done hand to hand combat with infertility myself, I know how much that disease sucks. Bless you for your sensitivity, but know your joy is not at the expense of others. You deserve to be over the moon happy. Treasure every moment of your pregnancy, as well as your life with this new baby. I look forward to reading all about it in the coming months and years.

    Congrats to you, Troy, and Jack.

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  75. I am so, SO HAPPY for you, Troy, and Jack!!!! Congratulations.

  76. How in the hell did I miss this post!!!!????? I am so, so happy for your and your family. I love that you “got off easy” but I also get that you feel guilty about it. It’s cause your an awesome person.

    I can’t wait to follow along with your newest adventure :0)

  77. Sarah!

    I have read your blog religiously for a couple of years. I feel like you are my spirit animal. I haven’t read in a while because I recently became a mother myself and have been short on time. I am sitting here listening to my husband try to comfort my 3 month old after she went a full day without napping and I came across this post. I am just over the moon for you. Congratulations on your pregnancy, it is such a joy to hear your good news!

    Love from Texas

  78. I can’t believe I was on vacation and am just seeing this amazing news now! I so enjoy reading your blog and am so happy to hear that you are expecting! As I’m sure most anyone who has gone through infertility can tell you, it is completely possible to be happy for other people’s pregnancies while being devastated for yourself. Best wishes to you on this wonderful journey you have ahead of you!!

  79. Oh my holy hell!! Sarah, I’m SO happy for you!! I finally had some time to catch up around the Blogosphere, and I’m glad I started here!!!

    xoxox