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Things I need to know from all of you:

  1. Which is more annoying – two days of a twitching eyelid, or the neighbor’s dogs barking nonstop for two hours?
  2. What is your favorite childhood food memory?
  3. If money were no option, where would you travel to for three weeks?

To all of you who celebrate Easter, I’m wishing you a very happy Easter this morning! We are the greeters (welcoming people as they come in the front door) at the 9:30 am service at church this morning. So, I’m going to do my best to keep Bennett’s fingers out of his nose for a solid 20 minutes.

We’re excited to be celebrating the holiday at my sister-in-law’s later today. She goes out of her way to make the day so special for all the kids and they’re so excited! 

I’m in charge of bringing “Sarah’s Rolls” (it is this whole wheat bread recipe formed into rolls. You bake for 18 minutes, brush baked rolls with a little melted butter and then sprinkle with a pinch of garlic salt on top), Avocado Yogurt Dip, and stuffing (aka dressing).

Stuffing is not a traditional Easter food, but the family really likes it and I’m happy to oblige. The recipe is adapted from my sister’s and from someone who doesn’t like dressing (me), it’s pretty phenomenal. I’ll be sharing it later in the fall.

What are you lovely people doing today?

This week has been a week of hard lessons for the kiddos. First, after being asked/reminded three times to get his f#@king shoes on so we could go to the grocery store before school, I told my nephew he lost the free cookie the store bakery gives out. 

He was sad but ok with it until we got there and realized they were his absolute favorite cookies in the whole wide world. I’ve definitely entered “mean aunt territory”, but holy balls am I sick of repeating myself with these three.

One of the things that this amazing book I read suggests is to not repeat yourself over and over. Rather, we’re supposed to simply start taking immediate action to change negative behavior. And I have found it works…when I remember to be consistent.

Second, after school on Wednesday, Jack opened his backpack and instantly burst into tears. What horrible fate happened to him to make him react like that? Well, he forgot his binder at school. 

Troy took him back to school to get it, and all was well.

So, Thursday rolls around and Jack opens his backpack only to realize the binder wasn’t in there. Again. Tears. Again. Whomp whomp.

Troy grabs his keys and is about to tell Jack to get his shoes on and I butt in with “absolutely not”. Troy said “you saw how he reacted yesterday and how upset he was about forgetting it”. My mean mom response? “Well, it clearly didn’t make enough of an impression to remember to bring it home today”.

Troy and Jack both made multiple cases for going back to get the binder:

  • Troy: He’s upset
  • Jack: But mom, I’ll have to stay in for five minutes at recess to do it AND I’ll get a “0”.
  • Troy: He doesn’t forget that many things. And it’s easy to go get it.
  • Jack: (something I can’t understand because he’s crying and not making a lot of sense)

But, no. I held firm. I explained to Jack he wasn’t in trouble and this wasn’t a punishment. I told him sometimes we learn life lessons in a way that really sucks, but that this was a low-stakes lesson to learn.

A few weeks ago I read this article about why we have to let our kids fail and it really stuck with me. And months ago I heard a discussion on a podcast about a study on addicts (I don’t remember the podcast or I would link it). After years of research, one of the commonalities amongst addicts of all kinds was that they rarely had the opportunity to fail during childhood. Someone was always rescuing them and they never had to own up to their mistakes.

To be clear, I don’t think forgetting his binder twice in one week means my ten-year-old will develop a crank habit soon. But, to me, understanding responsibility and taking ownership for our actions (both good and bad) is sooooo important for everyone to learn.

I spent YEARS making excuses when I screwed up – in my personal life and at work. I always tried to explain it away. Learning to say “I’m sorry, I screwed up and I take ownership for that” was soooo vital to my professional and emotional development.

^My friend Kat (who runs this amazing theater camp program in Florida) and is talented beyond all belief in every way, made this canvas print for me for Bennett’s room and it is one of my favorite things.

Jack’s science fair project is due tomorrow. I helped him organize his experiment, got him the supplies, and helped him think of a structure for how the project will look. We typed up the data for his trifold board together.

But I refuse to push to make this look like some amazing production. It’s his project, and it should look like a fourth grader’s project! We went to the science fair last year and all I could think about when I looked at 50% of the submissions were “all these kids learned is that their parents really care about appearances”.

This week we rigged a little portable fencing set up in our yard for the chickens. They’ve been free-ranging ever since and loving life. We had been letting them out of their yard (their coop, named Downton Eggy has a fenced area outside of it) for a few hours every day but they were tearing up the garden and getting wood chips everywhere.

The ladies are happier than a pig in shit with their freedom and have been dust bathing like they’re trying out for a Coppertone ad. And all the free-ranging has led to egg yolks an orange shade that I couldn’t even describe without a color wheel.

Snuggling up around my blossoming blueberry bushes.

We have two enormous Japanese maples in our yard and both are out of control. I need to learn how to trim these beasts because hacking at them with clippers is probably not how you maintain such amazing plants. Anyhoo, the chickens love to hang out under both of them and I want to put up a sign that says “mother cluckin’ fort”.

I’ve been out in the garden a bit this week after basically pretending it didn’t exist for the last few months. First up: weeding the very overgrown garlic bed (related: How to Plant Garlic). I swear this bed was clear two weeks ago and then BOOM, smothered in some random weed.

Left: before. Right: 35 minutes later

The raspberry patch got weeded as well (related: Raspberry Supports) which means my arms look like I got in fight with a drunk cat.

Through the end of this month, Butcher Box is giving all new subscribers two packs of bacon and two pounds of sausage in their first box. I have enjoyed Butcher Box’s bacon each month when we get our order and ranked it very high in my Whole30 Bacon Brands guide.

Finally, I wanted to let you know that slowly started adding a few videos to some older posts. It was a big goal for 2019 to include video with certain recipes.

The Sustainable Cooks Facebook community seems to be enjoying them, and I hope to keep adding some as time allows. If you’re interested in checking any of them out, the following posts have a video added (typically they’re in the top one-fourth of the post):

Spring preschool pictures. One of these days his head won’t be 75% of his body mass.

What I’m Listening To This Week

I binged the Gladiator podcast this week. Gladiator is the story of Aaron Hernandez, the former Patriots football player who was convicted of murder. It was fascinating and really well reported. It is from the Boston’s Globe Spotlight team (the people who had a movie made about them) and quite thorough. 

I’m not normally a sports podcast kinda chick (murder, politics, and business all the way) but I really enjoyed this one!

Comment/Review of the Week

This week’s five-star review comes from long-time reader, Ange who made our Sweet Potato Fries Dipping Sauce.

That dipping sauce is seriously amazing. I have made this twice now.  Since I am the only person in the house who would eat this (don’t ask, because I don’t know what is wrong with my family…), I scaled the recipe down (I LOVE that feature) to about 1/4 cup, then eyeballed the ingredients. I may have added a touch too much sriracha, but that didn’t stop me from devouring it!

a tray of sweet potato fries with sweet potato fry dipping sauce

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And I had to include this because I know y’all would appreciate it. I had a comment in my blog spam folder this week where someone left a comment that I had a filthy mouth. I looked at the post in question and it had “hell” in it. I laughed so hard I looked like a real-life happy crying emoji.

I was tempted to send her a link to some of my saltier posts. But you know, I don’t have time for the crap shit. Lady, channel some of that overly clenched butthole energy into something productive. Like picking up trash for Earth Day or something. Or you know, cracking walnuts for some geriatric squirrels.

On Sustainable Cooks This Week

Confessions – everyone’s favorite post of the month!

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Meal Plan

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This week is all about super easy meals. We’re prepping for Jack’s birthday party (making tons of homemade frozen pizzas, yard work, etc.,) and I have a bunch of deadlines around work that are hanging over my head. Soooooo, easy and fast is the name of the game!

Monday:: Instant Pot Lentil Soup some homemade baguettes (I use the recipe from this book). This soup makes me so happy and it’s super fast and simple to make. It’s a dump in the Instant Pot or slow cooker, push a few buttons, and walk away kind of dinner.

Tuesday:: Crispy Oven-Fried Gnocchi and Veggies. I can make this dinner in my sleep and every single person in the family likes it. Plus, it makes great leftovers.

Wednesday:: Breakfast dinner. I think our freezer stash of Whole Wheat Pancakes is almost out. And my nephew loves pancakes (he is here M-F before and after school)! Because I make my scrambled eggs ahead of time and bake bacon in the oven and freeze it, this dinner almost makes itself.

Thursday:: Veggie pasta with salad

Friday:: Popcorn, leftovers, and movie night

Saturday:: Jack’s birthday party

Sunday:: Will probably eat at Costco after Bennett’s swim lessons

What are you having this week?

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48 comments on “Scattered Sundays”

  1. Just wanted to give you a *Hell-yeah* and a *High5* all the way from Ohio!!! You are teaching Jack the BEST lesson at the right age.. This will save you a ton of headaches in Middle and High School! Having had 3 kids in under 3 years I was over being a Sherpa and a maid on call by the time I got the twins potty trained. If you want that water bottle, you have to remember to bring it and get it out of my vehicle.. You brought it you carry it. If you forgot the lunch box at school the next days lunch went in a paper bag so it was boring shelfstable-like foods. If you forgot your homework at home, you take the hit and remember to turn it in the next day- even if you get a 0.
    Being older and involved in more stuff these days I have allowed the *1 chance a year!* rule… I will give each kid 1 time that I will save them and bring them what they need… and I think this year ( 2 in 8th grade and 1 in 11th) They have not even used it.

    I was accused of being a *nazi mom* by another mom in my girl scout troop years ago.. and I laughed.. and I laugh now.. because my kids are not screwing up forgetting things, they are not losing their stuff( except the red water bottle.. I want that back), they are not calling or texting me in a panic hoping to be saved.. They realize the importance of being responsible at school and at home and they know although I love them fiercely.. I will not drop everything and drive to bring them their hearts desire( or economics book)

    • I can feel your pain over that red water bottle coming through in your words. I still feel anger over Jack losing a stainless steel water bottle.

      So, holding your kids accountable makes you a Nazi mom? Yeesh.

  2. Ok, seriously. This entire post had me laughing hard. You are hysterical. 

    Oh and fwiw, I am in agreement about the binder. My oldest is almost 13 and it’s comical how often my husband tries to run up to the school with items he forgot to bring. Nope nope nope.  It’s a good life lesson when you have band practice during school and have no instrument to play. Just saying – it hasn’t happened since!

  3. Ooh! I love answering questions.

    1. Dogs. DOGS. Frakking dogs, man. I know it’s un-American, but I greatly dislike dogs (with the exception of highly trained, REAL service dogs and police and military dogs).

    2. My grandfather used to take us out fishing on Lake Erie, and then for dinner to this pizza place that was way out in the boonies, and they had so many different toppings–it was the only place I knew where you could get potato chips on your pizza. He would let us each get our own personal pizza with whatever toppings we wanted.

    3. Ireland.

    Today I am trying to recover from a night of insomnia and back pain, and making Easter dinner for my family. I love cooking, so this is not a hardship. Ham, twice baked potatoes, broccoli salad, rolls, and a vanilla cake with lemon curd and homemade vanilla buttercream.

    • Ok, so were the potato chips baked on the pizza or added when they came out of the oven? I must know!!!

      I hope you’re feeling better and rested. Not being able to sleep when you’re tired is the worst.

      • They were baked on, I’m pretty sure. I had high hopes of sleeping well but now the youngest kid has a tummy bug, yay!

  4. 1. Ok, I love dogs, I mean LOVE them. Dogs always make me smile. That being said, I can not stand a barking dog, mine or anyone else’s. I know this will make some people angry, but if your dog barks non-stop, you are failing to provide it something it needs, you are neglecting it, or you haven’t trained it enough. Stop being a crappy dog owner and help your dog out.

    2. The first thing that popped into my head was my Memere’s ambrosia. Looking up the recipe now makes me want to throw up a little, but as a kid, I always looked forward to when she would make this.

    3. Wow, that’s a tough one. Am I traveling with the hubby and kiddo or solo? If I’m by myself, I think I could happily spend three weeks in a cabin hidden in the woods with just the basics and the dog, hiking, fishing, and observing nature. If it’s a family trip, I think we might enjoy traveling around Europe so Jared can check off some international bike trails, Emma can see the Lipizzaner horses in person, and I want to see Ireland’s gorgeous greens and castles (and Jared likes history, so both the horses and castles would actually be interesting to him).

    I think you did the right thing with sticking with the natural consequences. It sucks to see our kids so upset, but usually it’s the best way for them to learn. We all just took the enneagram type test last night. It was eye opening. For years we have been talking about getting into a better routine and being more consistent, but Emma’s such an easy kid that it never seemed necessary. Yeah, we screwed that up. We will start making changes now, but with our move to CA coming up in 2 weeks, our schedule will still be all over the place. Baby steps.

    YAY! More chicken freedom and gorgeous egg yolks make everybody happy! We found a house to rent in CA. I need to double check, but I think the city allows chickens. I’m considering asking our landlord if we can have chickens once we have been living their for a few months. I miss them.

  5. My little sister went through a similar phase of forgetting important things at school when she was maybe about 8. It wasn’t very often at first, maybe once a month, then she forgot something every night for a week! After about day 3 my parents told her she would just have to take the zero on the assignment and be more responsible next time…she never forgot anything again. Ironically the night they put their foot down with her was the only time I ever forgot something important in my locker which dad did run me back to school to get. That upset my sister even more but they pointed out this was the first time they had to take me back to get something. I think too that since I was in high school and it was a big project they were more lenient with me. No one looks at elementary school grades for college after all! Little sis learned her lesson though and has been much more responsible ever since (she’s graduating college next month with some seriously impressive stuff on her resume). Good on you for teaching Jack this lesson now! I hope it sticks with him the way it stuck with my sister.

    • And in response to your questions.
      1.) Dogs, I just don’t like them but they are much more tolerable when they aren’t incessantly barking!
      2.) Either my grandmother’s teriyaki chicken or her nachos. No wait, eating angel food cake with strawberries and tons of Redi whip…with my grandma. Okay, basically anything with my grandma lol.
      3.) My motherland…Ireland!

    • You’re so right; no one looks at elementary grades!

  6. 1) twitch — that can hurt after a while.
    2) Italian cold cuts, the real stuff, and condiments like marinated mushrooms and eggplant, on fresh Arthur Avenue bread. 
    3) Japan,  hands down. There is so much to explore there, and so very much to eat! I want to try onsen hot spring baths, sleep in a capsule hotel, go to the Studio Ghibli museum, go shopping from the famous vending machines, explore their parks, climb a mountain, go to a karaoke bar, take train from top to bottom!

    • I’m going to have to google Arthur Avenue bread because I have no idea what it is.

      The capsule hotels make me feel like when I had an MRI one time. I never realized I had some claustrophobia issues until then. I’m not sure I’d be able to sleep in one.

  7. The lady who commented about your filthy mouth reminded me of my grandma 🙂 haha.. not like she hasn’t said swears all the time..

    If I had unlimited monies I’d either just stay home and do all the things I’d want to do around here fixing the place up… or go to Peru, or all the old Roman places in Italy and Greece. 

    I’d say the eye twitching thing is worse. You can always go talk to a dog and try to get them to chill.. 

    And my favorite food memories as a kid would be my moms cooking. Most all of it, but specifically she makes the best meatballs I’ve ever eaten. But I think, unless your mother is a terrible cook, we always prefer our moms cooking. It’s what we grew up with, it’s comfort. But my mom is a damn good cook! 

  8. Shot weed is what I call it, because it shoots it’s stupid seeds when you pull it. My chicks love it though.
    As far as your maple, anything driving you crazy trim now, but do a good grooming session after the leaves are gone. Much easier to track wonky branches.
    Happy Easter!!

    • Please tell me I’m not the only one who constantly has those little seeds in my nose at the end of weeding.

      I tend to trim it in the spring and in the fall and it is still going insane!

  9. I have too many food memories and loves to just think of one (I come from a Polish background so I think that explains it pretty well 🙂 ).
    You were so right on the binder situation. I have 2 kids, 15 and 19 and I rescued them waaay too often. I have been seriously pulling back on that the last few years and it’s been a good thing. It’s really hard to do because I just may be a little controlling (hehehe ) but it’s better for every.

  10. Good morning!
    1.  The dog is probably a contributing factor to the lid twitch.  
    2.  I remember my Nana and I making a cake that looked like a bunny for easter.  I don’t remember if it tasted good, but I felt like a fancy baker.  That was the fanciest my baking skills ever got.  
    3.  Possibly Europe.  But more likely, New Zealand to visit my goddaughter.  

  11. First, I’d like to say that sweet potato fries are now one of my favourite lunches and I have made that dipping sauce at least one more time since posting that review.

    Your questions:
    1. We have yappy dogs that live behind us so I am learning to tune them out just like I tuned out those annoying “musical” toddler toys years ago.  So, I would have to say that the twitchy eye would send me to the nuthouse.
    2. I don’t know if I have A favourite food memory.  One favourite would be that every Easter we would go to my grandparents house for dinner and there was always an easter egg hunt (being the youngest of three grandkids, I always got the most!) and there was ALWAYS a big Laura Secord egg on each of the kids plates at the table.   My other favourite involves my other Gramma.  She tried to trick me (and my mom) by feeding us clam chowder without warning us.  She knew that we would not try it if we knew what it was.  It was gross, but I couldn’t tell my Gramma that her soup sucked so I tried to eat it.  My mom quietly asked me if I liked it, I told her ‘no’, she agreed with me and asked Gram what it was.  Gram confessed, took the gross soup away and brought us bowls of good soup.  I teased her EVERY TIME she fed me after that, and asked if she was trying to trick me, before I would eat anything she presented to me that I could not easily identify.   Both of those stories give me happy, warm fuzzies.
    3.  I have no idea.  I have only left Canada about four times, three of those were just barely crossing the border, and one was camping when I was little that I barely remember.  Having not been anywhere, I would LOVE to go anywhere!  We know people in Hawaii who keep trying to get us to visit, and I would love to go on a cruise one day.  That’s all I’ve got for you.
    I’m looking forward to reading other peoples answers to these questions!

    About the binder and science project:  That is just good parenting!  We always (not that we are perfect parents or anything) let our kids suffer what I termed the “natural” consequence.  By that I mean, if they don’t do their homework, the teacher gets mad.  If they don’t study for a test, they fail it.  They forget their binder, they have to stay in for five minutes and get a 0.   My kids are grown now.  One has finished university and made the Dean’s list at least once.  And the other is at the end of her 3rd year and consistently wins the group “bet” she has about marks.  (the person with the lowest mark buys everyone dinner at a certain restaurant).  There are three of them in this bet and my daughter has always had the highest GPA.  They do this every semester, so this is will be the sixth time they have made this bet. (although she is worried that she may be second this time because courses were much harder!)  I feel that one of the reasons that they are/were such good students is because we didn’t do any of their work for them.  (supplying materials doesn’t count as doing work for them!)  Keep up the good work, it will pay off!  Sometimes we have to be the “mean” Mom or aunt, but as long as we are fairly consistent, it will end up with great results. 

    My husband is ‘the boss’ of a group of electricians and when someone messes up, he always, ALWAYS appreciates it when they just admit they screwed up and get help fixing it rather than trying to hide it and making things worse.  He has a great crew that doesn’t screw up often.

    And lastly, I lifted the photo of that canvas piece.  I love it.  My oldest and her husband are trying to start a family and I think something like that would be a lovely gift.  I’ll try to incorporate some Disney-like magic to it for them because they love Disney. 

    • I’m glad you liked the canvas piece; lift away! I stole the saying from somewhere but could never find an attribute for the author.

      Your kiddos sound like they had an amazing foundation and are off to a wonderful start. Nice work!

  12. Though I don’t always comment, I always enjoy your posts. You’re doing the right thing not rescuing your kids for the “small” things now, as they are developing. It’s really difficult, I know.

    1. Barking dogs. I love dogs, but…
    2. I have so many lovely childhood food memories, but the best would be my mom setting up the card table with a snowy-white cloth to stretch strudel dough thin enough ” that you can read a newspaper through it”. Then of course, the eating of the heavenly strudel.
    3. If money were no object I would stay home three weeks and travel the rest of the year through Europe and New Zealand.

  13. You have a lovely potty mouth…one of the reasons I love your blogs and posts you are an awesome human full of real attitude… tell the douche’bag woman to take flyin leap off a short pier! 

  14. 1. Oh, the barking dogs, for sure. I can eventually ignore the twitching eye but dogs? Nope.
    2. My grandma’s fried chicken and coleslaw (homemade dressing), generally prepared for family reunions. I know how she made them both, but neither tastes the same as in my memory.
    3. Scotland!
    Happy Easter to you and the fam!

  15. 1) You can get away from the dog. The tic goes everywhere with you.
    2) My family has a reunion every year. The food that’s brought is the best and the catching up the whole weekend is fun.
    3) Italy. Or I like the idea of getting away and just being alone to read and cook.

    I have a mental block for dinner this week. Usually it’s easy because the hubs is out of town but I’m at a loss. It was a long weekend of Easter festivities.

  16. My daughter plays on a club team and the organization stresses letting your child fail, taking accountability/responsibility for her actions, and learning fundamentals as opposed to the focus on winning. I know that drives a lot of parents crazy but I truly believe that is teaching her to be a better person.   She has to text her coach is she is going to be late etc, she has to initiate the conversation with the coach if there are issues, and she is responsible for her sh!t and schedule.  I love it. 

  17. I’m still not getting your emails?
    And they are not in my trash or junk box either. 

    Dog barking – I can wear ear buds to avoid!

    Travel – Europe,  oriental express. Or ride the train from one end of Canada to the other. 

     Good on you for teaching the heart lessons now. What a shame that basic parenting skills are not mandatory! 
     I am so curious about the addict and correlation between never failing as a child. I’m going to go look into that now. Very interesting. 
     Every time I see your chicken pictures and hear your stories it makes me want to get chickens for my backyard. 
    Have a great week 🙂

    • Jan, it looks like most of the emails are getting “bounced” which means they’re being sent but not delivered. It looks like the last one that was delivered was April 9th and it did go through.

      I may be an enabler but I say get some chickens!!

  18. 1. Dogs…for sure…I have a dog and if/when he barks, I open the back door and yell “Harvey! Shut your face” and guess what? He shuts up….If only the other dog parents on the street did the same…Oy

    2. Best childhood food memory is helping my grandma bake pies. That women could bake a pie like no other….3. New England area into PEI to tour the Anne of Green Gables house. Especially in the fall. Amen.

    • I wish the dog parents on our street were as good as you!

      Did she teach you how to make pies too?

      • Yes! Pies and homemade bread, both of which I make regularly! May sound odd but a bowl of nicely risen bread dough always gives me the tinglies! And it smells like heaven!

  19. 1. The twitch for sure!!

    2. My mom used to make pancakes in different shapes like Mickey Mouse. Back before they had actual pancake molds.
    3. This is a hard one but probably back pack by train through Europe.

  20. 1. eye twitching…. 2 hours of that drives me crazy so 2 days??? You can wear noise cancelling headphones for the dog.

    2. hmm….I used to love waking up to peel and grate potatoes as a kid while watching cartoons, and then my mom would make us hashbrowns.

    3. Iceland. or Portugal or New Zealand. Just to have time to hangout.

    Also, wanted to add props to you for letting the kids feel the consequences of their actions. As a former teacher and cousin to a young adult who never got to “fail” in a safe environment–I have SEEN firsthand how important it is. I have an acquaintance who is middle aged and wanted advice and it turned out the the person just wanted to avoid consequences… it was an awkward conversion.

    • I had a twitch in my shoulder muscle for 2 hours and I wanted to punch someone so hard.

      I love that you enjoyed peeling potatoes!!!

      “Fail safe” seems the perfect phrase for letting our kids fall on their faces from time to time.

  21. Hey Sarah!  
    I love your posts – they make me laugh so hard.  You keep it real and that’s why people keep coming back – for more!

    This is kinda sad so bear with me.  I think that the reason my adult kids struggle so much is that I helped/rescued more than I should have.  But I was no where near what we witnessed other parents doing.  I didn’t do projects, papers or homework but we knew others that did.  If someone had told me when they graduated HS that my kids would struggle like they have, I would’ve called them a liar and knocked them out.  Seriously.  I thought my kids were hard workers (which they still are) but they are unable to make good decisions.  Neither is successful, both have F’d up royally in not being responsible, using their education and sticking with a career.  Nothing illegal or anything like that just totally unhappy and wandering through the best years of their lives miserable and struggling.  I cry about this all the time.  They won’t take advice or guidance, they think they know it all even though their life just freaking sucks.

    So, to that end….make your kids responsible.  Allow them to fail.  Discuss everything so they fully understand that one day, they will be on their own.  Their life and the success of it, is totally UP TO THEM!

    OK my rant is over.  
    Keep up the good work!

    Melissa

  22. Dogs barking, especially if they are small yippy types.

    Tried razor clams that we dug up on the beach earlier the same day.

    Norway.

    I don’t think you’re a mean mom, just a good mom. Moms are supposed to teach rules, boundaries and limitations. And when we fail, we learn that we are human. How else would we learn to say that we were sorry,or be thankful when we do get assistance? Feeling upset isn’t fun, but that’s life. And I think parents that do their children’s school work for them are just sick. It’s like their child is a reflection of them, not their own special personality with their own life to grow. And it never occurred to me that my mother would either do my assignments or drive back to school/home for anything I forgot. Just not thinking that would have ever happened.