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Wants vs. Needs

I hate my fridge.  It’s like pretty much the worst fridge ever.

It looks like an old Soviet-style apartment

It was also free.  And it works.  But I don’t love it, and I wish it would magically disappear because then it would give me an excuse to get a new one.

That’s the rub, isn’t it?  We always want something better, shinier, or new, even when we may not necessarily need it.

In my mind, if I had a new fridge, meal prep would be easier.  Right now, it’s a horrible game of Tetris to get anything in this dumb appliance.  Things get lost so easily, and nothing fits properly.

The fridge I lust after is a French door stainless steel Kenmore beauty from Sears.  It is energy efficient, has tons of space for keeping produce fresh, and I don’t have to take 429 things out first in order to get to the applesauce.

It also costs $1,600. 

So that’s that.  The old fridge stays.  And I make it work.  And I curse at it daily, and plan for it’s demise.  We all have to make big choices in life, and spending $1,600 on Jack’s tonsil surgery wins out over a new fridge any day.

Delaying the purchase of something you merely want, allows you to:
1) bulk up your emergency fund.  I’ve tried to convince myself that a new fridge is an emergency.  Sadly, it’s not.
2) Stay out of consumer debt
3) Save for a house
4) Pay medical bills (grrrrr)
5) Pay down debt
6) Throw extra payments at your car or mortgage debt

I’m not dropping any bombs here – everyone knows that replacing something that works with something better isn’t the smartest financial decision you could make.

However, the actual intent of my post isn’t a financial lecture.  I wanted to give YOU a chance to confess your own improbable, impractical, and ridiculous monetary desires.  Let’s get crazy!  Flame free confession time!

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97 comments on “Wants vs. Needs”

  1. A swimming pool. At least your desire is practical!

  2. I totally agree with you. We have some things around our house that I am dying to replace (ugly-ish upstairs bathroom, ugly garage doors, pretty much every other ugly-but-functional item in our new house) but I keep thinking that as long as they work, I’ll ride it out and then use the savings to replace it.

  3. Sadly, we have the exact same fridge as you except our door handles are black, as is the ice/water dispenser, so I definitely feel your pain. And we’re renting right now, so we can’t replace it if we wanted to. :/

    • Isn’t it awful? I feel like I can never find a space for anything? The water/ice don’t work, which is fine because a 3 year old who could dispense water and ice at a moment’s notice = disaster.

  4. 1. I have the same microwave.
    2. a new house. There’s nothing wrong with our house. It’s not too smal for us, it’s not too cluttered. It’s fine. But, that’s all it is to me is fine. It’s not my dream house. But, until the girls are out of daycare I have to be okay with it. That is, unless I win the lottery. In which case, I’ll buy you a new fridge.

  5. I was looking at inground pools last night online. The ad said “only $19,995!” Ha. Ha. Ha. We have no consumer debt, so we could swing the payments. My hubby would make a fine pool boy! Think of the parties! Rofl.

  6. I have lots of wants, but one of my biggest is new clothes. The clothes I have work, they cover my body, but they make me feel frumpy and yucky, and I magically think new clothes will make me like how my body looks more.

  7. When we bought our house, I was into dark furniture. A year later, Pinterest came on the scene, and convinced me that light and bright is the way to go. I would love to replace every single piece if furniture in our house with something lighter and prettier. None of it actually needs replacing though, so it would be a huge waste of money.

  8. A jet would be nice. I mean, it’s not environmentally friendly or anything, but it would make my 150-mile (round trip) commute much quicker! But we just got a new-to-us car to help make it a little bit more tolerable, so I don’t think my hubs would go for a plane, too.

  9. Well at least yours is a want. I NEED a new fridge and a new stove. Both are falling apart at the sametime. That is what happens when you buy appliances at the sametime. Then there is the expense of having our son in college. Always something. I think right now what I NEED is a vacation!

  10. Two things: my cellphone and my car. My cellphone, because the poor thing has been revived so many times and ducktaped over, and now it just works. But it’s having small issues and I wish it would just die so I can replace it with the new, all shiny Blackberry Q10. But not gonna happen. My car because I’ve *hated* it since I got it, but it still takes me from point A to point B and I need to live with it. Until it dies

  11. I WANT to quit my part time job so I can do the stay at home and online school thing full time with our son. I NEED a decent paying job for my husband with adequate health care bennies. On that note, I REALLY NEED my husband to get that job so I don’t have to clean up after him so much when I get home from cleaning up after lots of other people in the part time job that I WANT to quit. heehee

  12. I love that this topic came up! I’m finishing up my first month of being on a spending fast – not buying ANYTHING unless I absolutely NEED it. I just made my own toothpaste – I’m being hardcore 😉 That being said, my wants are a little out of control right now – most of them ridiculous. Here we go: cosmetic glitter (to make fairy gel – such a need), wool – this one is always on my list, lye – for soap making, though I’ve never done it, an immersion blender – mine bit the dust 4 days after I started this adventure, go figure. Dwarf fruit trees would be awesome, pottery clay for projects with the kids, and my biggest want – a farmette – which is the reason this whole spending fast started. To be honest though, after looking in my checking account last night, I am shocked at the amount of money I have accumulated – it’s a great trade-off, but still stinks 🙂 Thanks for letting me vent!
    -Lisa

    • I did a spending fast last March (horrible month because I couldn’t buy Girl Scout cookies!), but man oh man, the savings add up. It is incredible!

  13. I want to rip out my 2 year old carpet (NICE carpet- I had top of the line carpet put in and top of the line padding when we had our house build)and I want to replace it with laminate flooring because I am so tired of cleaning the carpet of muddy paws and feet, and spills, and other kid and puppy messes.

  14. My biggest want is a HOUSE! We rent, cheaply and we actually have to live in this house due to my hubbie’s work. So the house would at the moment end up being rented. Otherwise my want is fabric, fabric and fabric. Do I need it? NO, I have a cupboard full. My “thrifty” goal is to use down some of my stash before I press the button to order more…

  15. I have been lusting after a new washer/dryer combo – the beautiful red ones, front loader, mega laundry detergent dispenser, matching pedastals…….unfortunatly, my 14 year old dryer and 13 year old washer still work great, wtih less than $200 in repairs over the last 7 years. I also want a new-to-me car, so my teenage son could have mine, but for now, we live close enough to his job that he can walk, and still take the bus to school, so it will have to wait. Sigh. It sucks being financially responsible. But not as much as being in debt.

    • Kim, dont do it! Keep your old set as long as possible. My mom just replaced her old washer and dryer (which finally bit the dust) with a new fancy HE set. She hates it! She wants her old ugly simple set back.
      The new ones come with many features that just get in the way, too techy and not enough washy!

    • I work at an appliance service company and the newer machines break down more and the repairs are outrageous. Stick with the older machines, they work better and even if they break down it is usually an easy fix.

    • I agree, don’t do it. I wish I had my old 20+ year old set back. It came with our first home, and we took it with us when me moved. Upgraded to the front loader set…washer, dryer, pedestals, red color and all. Many issues and lost of $. Also, something I didn’t think until my washer died 8 months out of the extended warranty. How ugly will a white replacement washer look on a red pedestal with a red dryer? Difficult to color match. I found a display same model and color thank goodness. When these are done, I will return to a top loader set in white.

  16. I had that fridge in my apartment!

    I want a new house. My house is too small for us. It is a money pit that sucks us dry every month. The thing is….I love it. I love my little house. I would totally move it to another place where I could do additions. But I am 50 feet from my neighbor, and I don’t want to do the suburban thing anymore. My town will not allow anything other than a cat or dog so no chickens, and I can’t garden within so many feet of the road. Guess what? We are on a FREAKING corner lot so there is NO place they deem okay for gardening. I cheated them a few years ago, as I tore out existing bushes and planted stuff (grandfathered space, so SUCK IT)
    But as we pay what equates to another mortgage to settle debt we walked into our marriage with, we stay. 3 years it will be paid off and we will only have monthly expenses (heat, electricity, water) and our mortgage which, by then, will be paid down half. It is just the waiting that kills me. Now if you will excuse me, I have to go fix the toilet in the powder room off my laundry room that decided to overflow sewage so the plumber had to come to clean out our pipes. Oh yeah, and bleach the floor. *shudder*

  17. Our TV, for sure. It’s one of those older sets that easily weighs 50 pounds and is terribly bulky. We’ve moved 5 times in just over two years (married, graduated, found jobs, etc) and each time this massive beast is loaded up while I dream of some “accident” that will take it out of commission. Alas, it was free and works just fine, so (for now) it stays.

  18. well….I want my own place, currently living with family and sharing 1 room with my 2 toddlers! But I NEED a full time job to afford that. I also want a new phone, but my old one still works so i dont NEED one yet! I want to do it all (work, take care of my kids,help others in need, make everything homemade, etc.), but I NEED to realize that I am only one person and need the help of others while accomplishing my goals. Little at a time, it will all get done! Thats my list for today 🙂

  19. I would a new car. Actually it doesn’t have to be “new”, just better. We have a car that doesn’t work for our family so my hubby and I share a car. which means I get stuck at home alot 🙁 In the spring/summer/fall it’s no biggie. however we live in RI so with super cold temps the kiddos and I get stir crazy!

  20. I feel so much better reading these! Oh my goodness.

    I lust after shoes and clothes. I want ridiculous, impractical, shiny, fancy, over the top shoes and clothes. I lack the budget, closet space, and need for any of these. But it’s pretty much my go-to daydream when things are getting me down!

  21. My fridge is worse, I promise- 2 shelves, one bottom “crisper” that likes to fall out of place in the middle of the night and scare the hell out of us, and the freezer doesn’t have a dividing shelf at all. But we live in an apartment and it’s what we can afford right now without going into unneeded debt.

    I *need* new bras. The under wires in my 2 favorites have broken in the past week. That leaves me with about 3 everyday bras now and since I’m…well endowed, my bras aren’t cheap. But what I *want* is lumber to build a raised bed that will fit on our patio and a small compost tumbler. Space is limited, but I could make it work. I also want the medium sized, upright freezer I saw at Lowes the other week. But again, space is limited and so is our budget.

    We’re hoping we won’t have to renew our lease here and can find a small rental house that is within our price range. Then after we look at our savings, we might be able to splurge on one of those things. I guess I’m just thankful that we weren’t one of those couples that bought a 200k house as soon as we got married on top of still owing out the rear in student loans and debt carried over from our “single lives”. Don’t get me wrong, we have student loan debt, but we’re trying to pay all of that down and save some money before making any big purchases or considering *gulps* buying a home.

    • I’m going to start a “horrible fridge” club. You should join!

      Have you tried putting out an email request for lumber on freecycle.org? I did for our chicken coop, and we received roofing supplies, lumber, and a tip that a local roofing company gets rid of their extra lumber in a bin near their driveway. Troy scopes it every once in a while, and we’ve gotten a lot!

  22. My kitchen stove! Ugh, whoever thought glass top electric was a good idea should be beaten. I would trade in a second for the $400.00 gas ding and dent I had in my old house. I wonder how much canning I would have to do to make a new gas stove pay for its self…….

  23. Most of mine are remodeling projects. We have a 1950’s 1.5 Story and I’ve decided the entire upper story needs to be refinished as a super awesome Master Suite with gabled windows (only 2 single windows on each end currently) and a master bath with one of those super deep jacuzzi soaker tubs. I even have the bathroom fixtures picked out! It’s a sickness.

  24. There is actually not much I want, but I suspect that some of this may be that I justify buying better than you guys can. One thing to consider when it comes to fridges and freezers is energy efficiency. If it costs a fortune,because of leaks, food waste, etc. to run, it might be justifiable. And really, how bad were the tonsils? (Just kidding! I’m Canadian so we don’t pay for healthcare so I can jest!)
    christine

    • I’m guessing our current ancient fridge is only costing us $5-10 a month. Our power bills are about $60 per month.

      Sadly, the $1,600 will only pay for HALF of the tonsil surgery. Add that on top of the $3,200 we were hit with for his sleep study in Nov 2012, and the fridge is sooooooo far out of our reach.

  25. Dear Sarah … How I wish I had an extra $1600 in my pocket today. I would buy you that new refrigerator simply because it would give you joy and because I love your blog, your honesty, your kid & fart stories! My husband & I spent years becoming completely debt free, including our house. With our emergency fund reasonably funded, the first purchase we made was a shiny new, energy efficient, monster fridge. How I love that crazy thing. The years we spent analyzing “want vs. needs” was worth it yet often felt painful, in a very 1st world kind of way. Hang in there. We both know that fridge of your dreams will materialize. Oh – and yes, write that cookbook. Include plenty of Jack stories & pictures and lots of fart analogies. Please & thank you!

  26. If It makes you feel better, we have one of the LG french door fridges and its a PITA. They elude that they have so much space but they don’t. I can fit more in my old upside down fridge.

  27. I’d like a new fridge. Ours is old. It works, but it’s small. I know what you mean about things hiding. When things hide, they also change colors. NOT COOL! I also REALLY want a new stove/oven. We bought ours new, but fairly inexpensively when we moved into our home 8 years ago. We have replaced numerous parts and it’s electric. I prefer gas. But that means running a gas line to where the stove is located. I don’t care. I just want a beautiful 5 burner stainless gas range that stands up to the weight of my beautiful dutch oven! 🙂 I try to justify the purchase since I USE it all the time, but ours works (most of the time) and what I want is way out of our budget. 🙁 Shucks!

    • I’m going to start a “horrible fridge” club. You should join!

      We have an electric glass top stove right now, but there is gas to the house (our heat is natural gas). In my dreams, the kitchen is remodeled exactly how I want it, and that includes a nice gas oven/stove!

  28. you know, getting new fridge will probably save you heaps of money . here in Australia electricity prices are skyrocketing and anything fridge older that 8 yrs is a guzzler……… so im replacing my old one with a better energy efficient one and hoping not to waste as much food either cos it keep fresher and I will be able to find it ….:) double saving:)

    • I tried to justify it based on the energy cost alone, but it won’t work. In Seattle, we have cheap hydro electricity. Our electric bill is about $60 per month. I’m sure the fridge is only $5-10 of that! Sigh, I like where you head is at though!

      I’m reading a book right now set in Australia. It’s called “The Slap”. Have you heard of it?

  29. I meant to add I love the wants vs needs , something ive drummed into my kids since they were little 🙂

  30. I want a new house. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the one we have, and we are fortunate to even be able to own a home in our crazy, over-inflated local market. But I don’t like the layout, and I don’t like the finishes. I’m such a princess!!

    I also want a new black leather purse. I have no need of such a thing, and in fact, I probably could/should sell a couple older purses that I haven’t used in ages. But I want one. Again, apparently I have an inner princess.

    I want a vacation, somewhere not cold and rainy (like where I live). I don’t NEED a vacation, and am in fact very fortunate to have had a big vacation last summer. But I want one anyone. My inner Diva says so.

    I want more yarn. I have a yarn stash that exceeds my life expectancy already. But apparently I want more. Preferably cashmere. Hello Inner Princess!!!

    OK, now back to reality!

  31. Right now I would give my right arm to replace to our dishwasher. The one we have came with our house when we bought it and I’m convinced it is the loudest dishwasher that has ever been made. When we run it it sounds like a spaceship is taking off. Sadly it works just fine so now replacing it any time soon. 🙁

    • Samantha I had a similar problem recently, but my hubs had a brilliant idea that toned down the space ship sounds…if you are handy, un-screw the dishwasher from the underside of the counter. (Most are held in place by a couple of screws. Once it is free *carefully* pull the dishwasher out. Check for leaks since you have it out) If there is room, get a roll of pink insulation, no paper on it. Drape a section over the top and sides of the dishwasher itself. If you are patient and slow you should be able to slip the washer back in and screw it back into place. If you are feeling fancy or don’t want to mess with the pink crap, get rigid foam insulation, and apply it to the insides of the cabinet surround. Be sure you don’t over do it, so the dishwasher will actually go back into place.
      If you have the kind of dishwasher that has the removable front panel (alot do, and many buy fancy replacement panels to match their decor) Take off the front panel, and put a piece of the thin foam insulation behind it (you can use corrugated cardboard too) and put it back into place. It will be a little tight doing so, but go slow and take your time. It will go back. This toned down our dishwasher a lot and made it more efficient. Hope that helps!!

  32. I want another house, one in Cape Breton where my family lives, but we can not afford another 230 000 dollars. Oh I also want a 3000$ fridge, not happening!!! But we did just buy a new table because we needed it, with my medical issues I can no longer get up to our bar height one!

  33. I feel your pain. I too have an ugly side-by-side that I hate. Your has better door storage than mine. Mine is twenty five years old and makes some very strange noises. I keep thinking it is going to die but this has been going on for over five years and the darn thing won’t quit. I want one with a freezer that you can put stuff in. Mine seems so narrow that a lot of stuff just doesn’t fit. Maybe soon. I have been saving for the last three years to get a new one but won’t until this one actually quits.

    • I’m going to start a “horrible fridge” club. You should join!

      I think ours is definitely circa 1980 (something), but I’m not sure how old it is.

  34. I want an energy efficient washer and dryer, which may happen soon since the washing machine has been making very unfriendly noises the past few months. I want a food processor and think Hubby will get me one for my birthday in the summer. I really really really want to rip up the carpets and put in hardwood or bamboo (hell, at this point I’d be happy with cheap laminate) but it’s just not in the cards right now.

  35. I want a baby… My tubes are tied…. IVF total setback, about 16,000. We just got our house…I have student loans, we have 2 kids already, I would need a bigger car it only seats 4… But…. I have BABY fever

    • I want to give you a giant hug!

    • After a suprise pregnancy and subsequent (very expensive and devastating) miscarriage, I want a baby too! But with me working full-time/going to school part-time and my husband struggling to find a job after graduating last month it’s just not the responsible thing to do. Maybe we can reconsider after things are more stable. I am terrified I’m going to miss my chance by getting too old (I’m not exaclty fresh out of high school).

  36. I WANT a new bathroom. Ours is actually falling apart, tiles coming off walls, vanity slowly decomposing… but the longer we can hang out, the sooner the bathroom (and the house) is ours and not the banks, so…

    I had an awful fridge which I painted with hammered metal finish paint – it didn’t fix the inside problems (every three months we would remove the ice-monster from the freezer who we named “Jurgen”, and he would slowly return) but it made me hate it a little less, for about $20 in paint.

  37. We also have a side-by-side fridge…only it’s even smaller (if you can imagine!!). My in-laws have a beautiful fridge with french doors like the one you want. And, they aren’t even in to cooking! Would love an upgrade on a fridge too, but unfortunately the mortage payment takes rank!! BOO!!

  38. Before Christmas I lusted after the red leather tot bag that was only $50 after you spent around $80 odd on perfume. Drove me crazy! Checked it out online several times weekly. What a classy bag – I love bags! It would have been delivered for free! Don’t know how common sense prevailed and I still don’t know that I am glad that it did.

  39. I have to admit that I was pretty excited that the apartment we ended up renting didn’t have a microwave. Gave me more ammo for buying the rediciously expensive toaster oven (which we use multiple times a day and we all LOVE).

    Let’s see. I’d love a new laptop. My technically works, but likes to freeze up, or not wake up after it’s gone to sleep. As we homeschool and the internet is where I get most of my free educational materials, having a working computer would be nice.

    I’d also really LOVE a spiffy new DSLR camera.

    Oh well.

  40. Think long and hard about buying anything from Sears. They used to have a great reputation for their appliances. My mom had one of their washersalmost fifty years ago. It lasted through six kids, and my husband and me and two kids, with only one or two repairs. For that reason, I bought a new front loader ten years ago. It died after two years and the repair bill would have been more than the 800 dollars I originally paid for it. From now on I really research when I have to buy a new appliance and get the best built I can afford. In the long run it pays off.

  41. A fridge. So bad. Mine is basically the same as yours, except the bottom two shelves are broken, and the ice maker wont shut off so it clogged up all the time. The water does work though. I do love that about it. It was also free, and it does keep the food cold, so I hate the thing overall, but won’t replace it.

    Maybe I can get an argument going that it is really inefficient electricity wise and that’s good cause to replace it. …Yeah, probably not going to work.

    • I’m going to start a “horrible fridge” club. You should join!

      Our ice/water maker don’t work, but we never hooked them up by choice. Jack would have a field day there!

  42. I want to redo both bathrooms DESPERATELY! I’m dreaming of beautiful tile, new counters, big beautiful sinks, shiny new fixtures, ect. Sadly, those are all just wants. There is nothing “wrong” with our current bathrooms. They are just ugly to me. :/

  43. I also want a new fridge, although it’s turning into more of a need right now, as our current one is way too small (like 1/2 the size of yours) for even just the two of us.

    I want new curtains because the ones we have are so ugly…..they were all given to us when we got married, and it is apparent why no one wanted them up in their own houses….but they are functional and we are still saving for new ones. Sigh.

  44. I want an iPhone 5. I don’t need one – I still have a perfectly serviceable 3G, but I want one. So that all the cool apps that I keep reading about will actually be compatible – nothing seems to work on the 3G anymore. The fact that I didn’t really use any of them when they did work is neither here nor there. I just want one.

    I won’t get one – they are stupid money, more so than the stupid money I paid to get the 3G, which is one of the only gadgets I have ever truly coveted. Now that I’ve had it a few years, the shine has worn off and I’m not that fussed. There are far more interesting things to spend my money on. Or I could just save it.

    But annoyingly, knowing that it is a ridiculous waste of money for something I don’t need doesn’t stop me from wanting one. Silly, isn’t it?

  45. Ah! That is exactly how I feel about our appliances. We bought our first home in March of 2011 and luckily all of the appliances were included. Except that the appliances are like, 100 years old. Our fridge is worse than yours, if you can believe that! BUT they work, so I don’t NEED to replace them yet. Boooo. Plus my husband just had hand surgery a couple of months ago so that definitely was more important. This is the story of LIFE.

  46. Le sigh…oh the things I *want*…I want a 2011 Ford Edge with the sports package. I want a new stove…If I’m really dreaming it would be a countertop stove with a double oven standing next to it. My biggest and dreamiest want is a new bathroom. My bathroom isn’t big enough for two people to stand in together unless there is some clever artful arrangements. My husband loves it though because the shower takes up the entire back wall. That is the only place taht can fit two people. 😀 My dream bathroom (while still in my home) would have a clawfoot bath tub and more space. We have a mud room and the other day I was asking DH if we could move the wall out into the mudroom and extend the bathroom. He just looked at me like I was crazy. The mudroom used to be a back porch so the floor is concrete that they laid laminate over and walled in.

    We follow Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University so the first two are somewhat attainable…just in the future at some point. This last one..my husband wont waste out money making it happen. Again…le sigh….

  47. I NEED a new gas stove/oven, but alas my *&$% electric one refuses to die. I bought it thinking I would like to broil meat and not have to kneel on the floor. Yeah, pretty sure after having to clean the blasted thing from top to bottom, there will be no more broiling. My grill works better anyhow!

  48. Idk, the grass always seems greener, I think. My parents have a french door fridge and I HATE this thing! I’m invariably leaving one of the doors open, and it’s just as hard to find things as it in is my side-by-side at home. Those aren’t big deals, I guess, but the freezer is the ultimate downside for me. Talk about not being able to find anything. Not only can you not see anything since everything’s stacked up, but you also have to then touch/hold all these frozen things to find what you’re looking for. And the top layer has to be perfectly flat if it’s full in order for the damn thing to push in.

    How’s that for knocking you down? 😉

    BUT, whenever you do decide to take the plunge on it, we found out that Sears does its markdowns on Tuesdays (at least at our local store). We were looking at a floor model for $1100 or so (originally $1600), but when we called back a few days later (on a Wednesday after looking at it on Monday), it was down to like $700. 🙂 It has since moved with us twice – I couldn’t bear to leave it after getting such a good deal, lol.

    • Good to know about the Tuesdays!

      I can’t keep anything in my freezer now, and while I don’t love the drawer style freezers (I curse at my parent’s freezer every week during family dinner), we have a large stand alone freezer downstairs, so I don’t have to fill my upstairs one.

  49. I’d like a dishwasher…cause right now, I am the dishwasher!! I’d like to give my wrinkly hands a break!!

  50. I want…a dishwasher. I’ve never had one. But my hubby is a chef and I’m a baker. I’m also a stay at home wife so I do all the dishes – a dishwasher would let me spend that hour doing something else, like plastering and painting (who am I kidding, like knitting and sewing)

    I want…to fix the bathroom. The seal on the toilet leaks and leaves nasty black spots on the floor, the sink cabinet disintegrates a little more every time I clean it, the shower and tub are so small that I bang elbows daily, and the shower walls are full of termite damage. I want to redo the shower walls with blue and white river rocks as tiles, and heated tiles on the floor. I would LOVE a claw foot tub, but when I can touch all four walls standing in the middle of the room…not gonna fit.

    I also want to redo the kitchen we have a 1 butt kitchen – which will go towards getting the dishwasher. But for that we have to get new water and gas lines run, which will be about $2000. That way the washer and dryer can be moved to a different part of the house and out of my kitchen, the stove moved out from the center of the room (makes no sense there) and I can knock down the half wall dividing the dining area from the cooking area, so we can actually fit four people around the table.

    I also want a $3500 sewing machine. Yes that’s the right amount of zero’s. I love sewing, but not with my current 5 yr old $99 walmart special. I would rather hand sew than use that thing. I like making our clothes, but not when I can’t trust my machine to keep the tension I set it at. This crazy expensive machine does everything! It even will follow a line drawn on the fabric so crazy squiggle quilting line….so much faster and easier!

    sigh…but just as with each of you, medical bills (trying to conceive), house payments, student loans (hubby is also a computer engineer), paying off the wedding, the new roof etc takes priority.

  51. Oh goodness. I want….tattoos. We’ve been “making do” with what we have and it’s been a great opportunity to be more creatively thrifty. My family has learned that living like pioneers from the 18th century in a suburban neighborhood can be an adventure. So many things need repair or replacing-I’m surprised we’re not pumping our water and burning cow (doggie) chips at this point.
    Of course, we’d all love to have new furniture and kitchen appliances, but really, for me, just me, I’d like to splurge on tattoos.

  52. Sarah, when you were in London did you notice that EVERYONE has a mini fridge? That was the thing my BFF (Becky) was most excited about when moving back I think… not having to grocery shop practically everyday and being able to chill condiments and drinks.

    It’s such a funny thought since we all have a full size fridge with freezer plus an extra freezer or two.

    You should post a link to that Kenmore fridge you want. I’d like to see it!

  53. A dog… lost my best friend about 7 months ago, and I am finally getting over the ‘it makes my heart break to even look at another dog stage’ but we move every 1-3 months for my husbands work and have 4, yes 4, cats in tote! Its an amusing nightmare but keeps me sane in an inexplicable way. The breed I want is ofcourse $550. While I have never paid for a pet in my life, im drawn to it and *need* a buddy at some point, just not now. ugh. 🙂

  54. I want new living room furniture because ours is UGLY and the middle cushion of the couch sags and I just hate it. Buuuut… our youngest is two and it makes no sense at all to get new furniture until she is a bit more civilized. Doesn’t stop my husband and me from trying out the couches in Costco all the time though!

  55. Sarah — When that fridge dies (I know… you wish it can’t happen soon enough, but will probably hold on for years…) Check your local sears outlet. I bought our new kenmore fridge there, just had a minor dents on the side, which weren’t visible where we were sticking it, and it had a scratch on handle, which I was able to get the salesman to swap out. Saved a ton of money that way 🙂

    • The day after I posted thie original post, I opened the freezer and a lot of the things were frosty. I gasped, thinking it was broken!

      Sadly, Troy just didn’t close the door all the way. Sigh.

  56. We have a black Kenmore fridge which I got 6 years ago during our kitchen remodel and I love it. The fridge that we had before that came with the house and was probably from 1950. It took us years to work and finish the kitchen and I know that I appreciate my frige (most of the time) more because of the wait. Maybe you should post a picture of your dream fridge on your fridge so that you can see it and imagine you are opening the new one 🙂 Plus stainless steel isn’t fun to clean with little hands so in a few years, think how much less wear it is going to get from your little one being older and “more responsible” 🙂 Good luck!!

    • Please enjoy it on my behalf!! Sadly, Troy will be around longer, and will cause more fingerprints than Jack.

      The stainless steel is the kind that is dull and “repels” the fingerprints. Sigh.

  57. Boy can I relate to the old fridge blues! My parents built the house I grew up in two years before I was born in 1982. Everything was brand-new and stylish right down to the matching fridge, dishwasher and stove which were all “Harvest Gold”…. an icky 80’s yellow… with matching 80’s linoleum. Granted it was great in the 80’s, but as I grew up and went to friend’s houses, I was jealous of their updated kitchens with nice white appliances. Especially my aunt who seemed to remodel her entire house every 5-6 years (which was actually a benefit for me when I moved into my apartment… I still have nice hand-me-down furniture from her even though I’m married and own my house!) But back to being in high school, my parents WOULD NOT get new updated appliances because “these still work fine, why spend all the money on new stuff?” I hated it and felt the need to point it out whenever new friends came over. “This is my mom, this is my dad… oh yeah and I know our kitchen is ugly!” And ultimately when I moved out of my parent’s house and into my first apartment (owned by my brother who was also buying my childhood home from my parents) that horrible Harvest Gold stove followed me to my apartment because it worked better than the one that was there (although it didn’t match the nice new white fridge) and is still there to this day, it’s 31 years old and still works! Your post made me laugh and I briefly felt your fridge-pain again. Now that I’m technically a grown up at the age of 28 I understand my mom’s “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” mentality. Probably the money she saved on not remodeling her kitchen to keep up with the Jones’s (and to appease her bratty teenager) allowed us to have money to do other things. 🙂

  58. I recently had a repairman in to fix my 15 year old stove. She (yes, she was a she!) asked me why in the world I would want to spend $200 to fix a stove that was so old. I was incredulous. I told her that my parents had the same stove for probably 30 years. She told me sure, that’s when they made them to last. The average expected life cycle for a new appliance is 7-8 years. And that includes fancy washers and dryers. I was amazed. I told her we bought my dryer used 16 years ago when my son was born and it’s never needed repair. My washer is 15 years old. I have a beer fridge in my basement that is 25+ years old. Are they the most energy efficient? No. But they are also not sitting in a landfill. The downside to this is all my old appliances will likely die all withing a month of each other driving me to financial ruin 🙂

  59. I know the fridge you’re talking about, and I would LOVE to have one of those babies. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my fridge. It’s a Maytag, it’s eight years old, and it runs fine — it’s just small, and I want something gargantuan. Oh, and since we’re talking about impractical and heinous wastes of money, my dream spend would be a boob job and a Brazilian butt lift. My family was blessed with junk in the trunk – only we’re all European models, not American …